Oprah, Madonna and the number 24.
Our next guest on Awesome People is the one and only Tamara.
Tamara has been in my life for more than 25 years. She is brilliant and clever, and makes me laugh often! We had a lot of fun this past week, as it was our birthday on March 5th. Yes both our birthdays! We realized that perhaps we were twins, but she kicked me out at 9 months and she decided to stay and continue to grow and evolve.
Tamara came to Penticton to celebrate this incredible occasion. We visited a few wineries, walked and talked and hung out. Doing what we do best...talking about life.
This interview was like an extension of our talks. Some of the things we touched on include:
- Carl Jung
- quantum physics
- mental health
- drinking as a coping mechanism
- letting go of material belongings
- alone time, and
I've included some of Tamara's photos. She has always had a camera for as long as I can remember, and her photos are quite brilliant.
I asked Tamara to give me some of her thoughts. Here is what she wrote: "Things I've learned recently that change how I live.
1. Life cannot be approached tentatively; it requires full-on commitment. Things stay basically the same if I wake up every day focused on the past in some way... and there are a lot of ways to do that. The more obvious ways are through anger, fear and regret, but there are less obvious ways, too, like filling time with unfulfilling activities, and engaging in routine behaviours. In these there is little space for anything new. Full-on commitment means making space for change so that expansion can happen in the way that it needs to, apart from my ideas of how it should be. Making space can be as simple as doing something I wouldn't normally do.
2. Each thing on the back burner sucks a little bit life out of each day. I didn't realize this until I started letting go of stuff that fills my space, which led me to stuff that fills my time, which led me to stuff that fills my mind. If I want to draw, paint, study economics or go camping - none of which I have done in many years - the materials and equipment I need can be borrowed, rented or replaced. In the meantime, I don't need to own any of it. Doing so just keeps my tied to the past, to things I used to want, but may not want anymore. Maybe I want new things, but have never given myself enough space to think about them, so few new things have materialized. Making space frees up energy for whatever I want.
3. The day I stopped trying to get what I wanted, I became a lot happier. For the most part, I like what I have and, if I look at what I need, there's not very much that I don't already have. The energy I spend on striving is subtly focused on what I don't have, thus perpetuating the sense of not having enough, which sucks. That is not to say that I am not goal-oriented, but I am working on begin less outcome-oriented. I may want a particular type of work, or entry into an academic program, so I work toward those things, but if they don't work out, I can move on fairly easily. A+B =C... usually, but not always. Sometimes it seems there's another plan, and it's best to just let that run its course. Usually, the result is better than the plan that I had."
Tamara has a big brain and thinks along a different path that is engaging and inspiring. Please welcome to Awesome People, Tamara.